Showing posts with label Relationship tips. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Relationship tips. Show all posts

Wednesday, 9 October 2013

Starting A New Relationship

Launching into a new relationship can be exciting and scary in equal measure. Learning to trust a new person with our heart takes a great leap of faith and is not something to do without careful thought and consideration. That said, careful thought and consideration are not often present at the beginning of a new relationship – when analytical discussion is usually discarded in favour of passion!

I am not going to sugar coat it. Starting a new relationship is not easy. There will be times when you wonder why you bothered. But there will also be times when you are so pleased you did. Love makes the world go round, and everybody deserves a bit of it in their lives.
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Monday, 17 September 2012

Wait No Longer, Speak.








Few things are as powerful as the right words spoken at the right time.
By the same token, words witheld when their season of opportunity is gone, are a heavy burden to live with. Looking back, one relationship expert offers these moving words:
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Saturday, 7 July 2012

How To Start and Maintain A Godly Marital Relationship.

1. Work on each others spiritual lives and agree on issues.

2. Lay a solid foundation for effective communication. Distance is no barrier to a sound communication. Infact, you may live together and experience a bad flow of communication.

3. Family size: this may sound too early in courtship but very important. Agree on the number of children you would want to have irrespective of their sex (God determines that).

4. Finance in the home: many couples do not agree on a joint/common purse. Both of you must choose the best way to run your finance in such a way that there will be no loop holes.

5. Unveil family backgrounds and your past lifestyles, this must be done prayerfully and with wisdom in case there is an unpleasant story about one of the party. Ensure there is no skeleton in your cupboard before you get married to each other. If you love each other, you would stay together- love covers multitude of sin (Prov. 10:12)

6. Constantly appreciate one another and voice it out. You will find it easy to correct one another when you constantly commend each other.

7. Start to take decisions together. For example where to live or settle down, ask for counsel from the other party and so on.

8. During courtship, identify the weaknesses or errors of the other party and lovingly correct them but bear in mind that you do not have the power to change anyone. Speak at the right time, be sensitive.

9. Do not worship your partner. It is not a do or die affair. You must be mindful that anything can happen as you go on. Let your mind be stayed on God. (Isaiah 26:3)

10. Do not expect too much from the other, realize that you are not in relationship with angel and even, angels fall into error and are judged by God.

11. Be yourself and do not be hypocritical let your man see you without your make-up atimes. Do not pretend to be what you are not.

12. Be a good listener, talk less and listen more.

13. Do not be over-spiritual, there are some issues that you need only the common senses to tackle.

14. Think on how to make the other person better.

15. Do not build your relationship based on valuables but on values.

16. Settle issues or misunderstandings immediately. Be sensitive about the timing and wisely present your case to the other.

17. Be responsible. You can delegate duties but you cannot delegate responsibilities. Be careful if he or she only showers you with gifts or money at detriment of his or her family members.

18. Avoid sin consciousness. If you are too conscious about sin, you are at risk (e.g. touch not, taste not etc.). Do not create any atmosphere for sin but know your limit and set your boundary.

19. Avoid assumptions. Be clear about every issues before you jump into conclusions.

20. Do not do things as if you are married already. Wait for your time. For example, avoid living together before marriage.

21. Do not compare him or her with either parents, sibling or past affairs. See him or her as a different entity.

22. Say NO in courtship to things you do not want in marriage. Do not try to patch up your relationship for the fear of loosing him or her.

23. Be ready to stand through hard times or challenges together. Realize that greater challenges will rise in marriage.
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Tuesday, 12 June 2012

16 Questions you must ask yourself when choosing your life partner. (Relationship tips)

Choosing a life partner has been a very delicate thing, and must not be taken lightly.
But with my little esperience and with the help of other available resources I am able to gather these few tips and I hope it will be useful to you out there.

Ask these questions and be sincere with yourself and make up your mind in what to do.


* Is he/she a child of God who believes in biblical view on God's principles about marriage?

* Does he/she have a role he/she is playing in a local church?

* Does he/she respect authority, parents, pastors, etc?

* Can he/she allow you to maximize your potentials?

* What is his/her attitude to corrections?

* Do you have a point of reference like that of Eleazar, Abraham's servant?

* Do you respect him/her as a person?

* Do you share the same faith and similar doctrine?

* What comments do people, parents or pastors pass about him/her in the church, family and in the midst of friends?

* Does he/she love God, His work and service more than you? Is he/she kind/caring?

* What is his/her attitude to money?

* Does he/she spend wisely, judiciously and not tight fisted?

* Does he/she have a mentor that he/she respects? What kind of person is the mentor? Does he/she really love you?

* Do you have the same passion for the same issues?

* What is his/her perception, purpose and plan about life?

Use these above questions as a rating scale and check if you both have scores below ten points. Please consinder your score before you decide to marry him/her.
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Sound decision tips for singles. (Relationship tips)

Here are few tips to becoming a best and godly partner.


* Guard your eyes, heart and ears zealously. Your inner life is affected by things you focus on.

* Set your priority right. No body can outgrow priority setting.

* Dwell only on the things that are pleasing to the Lord, not friends, women or men.

* Let your spiritual antenna be sensitive because your decision will take you to the next level of your destiny.

* Greatness today is for those who have taken the right decision yesterday.

* Be mindful of the positive or negative effect of your decision. Know that maturity is measured by standing without complaint or regrets after you might have taken a decision.

There are some other thins wise girls and guys must consinder when taking marital decision. The decision must be godly since marriage can only work and sustained in God.

But that will be a topic for another page, till then, remain blessed and be wise.
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Friday, 8 June 2012

What (we) men look for in a woman.

What is it that initially draws a man to a woman?

The difference is in their expressions.
Here are the best responses:


WHAT MEN WANT

* "As a man, what I look for in a woman
is compatibility. The most important
thing to me is that there be spiritual
compatibility from the perspective of
dating someone that has a strong faith
in God as I do. There must also be some mental compatibility so that we
can communicate on similar topics we
both enjoy. And lastly, there must be
some physical attraction. I want to be
able to look at the individual and
enjoy what I am beholding through my eye gate." (Yes, this man just wrote
"eye gate" lol)

* "A lady in the street, but a freak in the
bed."

* "A woman who is intelligent without
arrogance, funny without vulgarity,
compassionate without being maudlin
and beautiful without the stain of
vanity. Also, there is little that is more
repugnant than a woman who reeks of entitlement."

* "1. Unconditional s*x.
    2. A nag-free relationship.
    3. Physical beauty."

Are you following me? Ok keep your fingers crossed, more to come.

* "Initially, there has to be some
physical attraction, any guy who
says otherwise is lying. It's the way
our brains are wired. That being said,
we all like different things. Some like
big butts, some like big bellies and some like big b*obs. As far as the
physical thing goes, a great smile,
great teeth, nice hair, etc. are all as
equally important as any of the
aforementioned items. For me, a great
personality can override another physical attribute, but don't confuse
that to mean that a great personality
means you don't need to be attractive
at all. S*xually, I don't care about
experience, you can be trained. If
someone is willing to learn and is inexperienced, that's fine. If you are
too experienced, you better hide
some of it, or I'll wonder if that's your
job. (yes of course) Finally, she better not have an
entitlement attitude. I will freely give
things and stuff and meals, but the day she stops saying thanks and thinks
she 'deserves' these things, she'll be
gone."(thats right).

* "I think men do initially notice a
woman's look. But after that, men look
for a sense of humor, someone who
has a similar intelligence to them and
also someone who has a streak of
independence as most men hate to be smothered."

* "1. Non-sm oking/non-dr ug taking
(bonus for non-drinking but not a
deal-breaker). 2. Attractive face/eyes
(sure, large br*asts are nice, but you
can't have a dinner conversation with
them! *smile*) 3. Shapely figure/size preferably hourglass or buxom, not
skinny nor fat (weight no more than
mine). 4. Personality, an individual,
with a will of her own plus a sense of
humor to appreciate my constant silly
jokes. 5. Reasonable intelligence/ education - able to converse on
various subjects. High IQ an extra
turn-on but not necessary; I just can't
stand the "dumb blonde" stereotype.
6. No kids 7. Dark
hair/eyes. 8. A job/self-sufficiency."

*As for me, I
practically had no requirements for
women, just reasonably attractive and
willing to have s*x with me. (yes nau) With age,
comes maturity. Now, in no particular
order, here are my requirements: "Intelligent, attractive, takes care of
herself, self-confident, not bit chy,
knows what she wants, fun to
converse with, great sense of humor,
it's the best if she's musically savvy,
meaning classical music -- and even better if she's a musician herself!" (infact no bi small thing o)

So woman what do you think?
Any comment or opinion?
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Monday, 28 May 2012

3 love tips learnt from the elders of the 60s.

Is there anything that mid-century culture can teach us about making our relationships better? I think there are a few things:

I got little to show you now, hope
you enjoy reading them.

MIND YOUR MANNERS

True, it's no fun adhering to
schoolmarm-level etiquette rules (use
the correct fork!), but try keeping your
bad habits — interrupting, knuckle-
cracking, constant texting, swearing
— to a minimum when you're around your significant other. Putting your
best foot forward will encourage you
to see your relationship as something
special that's to be respected, rather
than an uncouth free-for-all. When
your guy sees you behaving so well, he might just get inspired to clean up
his act as well.


EAT TOGETHER AT DINNER TABLE

Raise your hand if you regularly eat
your meals in front of the television.
(We're guilty of that too!) Before
Nigerians had 500-plus cable
channels to choose from, having
dinner together was a main event, not an afterthought. In that spirit, the next
time you're both home for the evening
and have a few minutes to spare, try
eating from real plates at the dinner
table (even if the main course is
Rice and stew) and having a conversation with your guy, all while
the TV is switched off. You might be
surprised by how much you end up
connecting.


BRING BACK THE NIGHTGOWN

What's lace and silk and undeniably
pretty? A basic nightgown, which was
de rigueur for mid-century ladies.
(True, there were also unsightly hair
rollers at bedtime too, but we'll focus
on the positive.) How lucky will your guy feel when you slip between the
sheets in something slinky? Very. And
we'll bet you'll feel sexier too. It's a
win-win!

Sure elemi loma last!
I no go carry last o!
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Sunday, 27 May 2012

25 Inspirational tips. (love advice).

I've gathered up 25 of love tips about strengthening relationship and love. I hope you'll enjoy.


1. Don’t forget to make time for your
relationship. Pick a day and commit to
a weekly date night!

2. Expressing gratitude builds a better
relationship.

3. Bring sexy back to your relationship
and leave those boring PJs in the
drawer for a night.

4. Guys often hold back or have trouble
opening up in a new relationship.
Reassure him by sharing your own
fears.

5. The right man will love all the things
about you that the wrong man was
intimidated by.

6. Let your man peek when you are
primping. It’s something other guys
don’t get to witness and reminds him
you are all his.

7. Being around food spikes oxytocin
levels in males. Cook together and
share those good feelings he gets
from food.

8. When grocery shopping, buy the
brand he uses. It will help your man
feel at home at your place.

9. Catnap near your man. It allows him to
see you completely relaxed and in
your most trusting state.

10. Don’t marry a man unless you would
be proud to have a son exactly like
him.

11. Physical space can be a huge symbol
of independence for many men. Don’t
scare him away - respect his privacy.

12. Give him goose bumps and kiss his
ears. The edge of the ear is packed
with nerve endings and is ultra
sensitive.

13. When you criticize, he will tune out.
Talk so he will listen, and give praise. It
will encourage him to try harder to
hear you.

14. Don’t get to spend enough time with
your partner? Present it as an issue
that can be solved together.

15. Feel closer after a fight. Arguing sucks
but often conflicts end up making
your relationship stronger.

16. Always learn how to forgive. Trust is
crucial in a relationship and learning to
forgive your partner is key in
maintaining trust.

17. Always keep your own dependence
and independence in balance.
Dependence can often make your
partner feel trapped.

18. Bring back the romance in your
relationship and recreate your first
date. It will help to remind you why
you first feel in love.

19. Exchange massages with your
partner. This will help develop
intimacy in the relationship and relieve
stress.

20. The 3 Cs in life: Choices, Chances and
Changes. You must make a choice to
take a chance or your life will never
change.

21. Sex can be awkward, but don’t let it
ruin the mood. Make sex fun. If you
can both laugh, it becomes a bonding
moment.

22. Don’t be afraid to be silly together.
Keeping each other smiling - laughing
is key for a happy relationship.

23. The 3 most important C’s when it
comes to a relationship: Compromise,
Communication, and Cuddling.

24. The line between being comfortable
and taking each other for granted is
very fine. Always know what side you
are on.

25. Let your partner know you are
thinking about them and say “I love
you” every chance you get.

(love your baby and treat your baby right.)
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