Someone quipped, 'God gave us two ears and one mouth because we need to listen twice as much as we talk.' Listen , slow to speak.' Good listening builds relationships. But good listeners aren't born, thy're bred! So here are a few suggestions to improve your listening:
1) Listen without interrupting. Resist the temptation to jump in and finish the sentence, or hijack the floor. Rein yourself in just listen.
2) Listen to understand. Try to understand their point of view, feelings, thinking and needs. Good listening is hearing what they actually think, mean or feel, not what you imagine they do. Instead of guessing, ask, 'Am I understanding you correctly? Do you mean...? Are you feeling...?' IN OTHER WORDS, DON'T ASSUME verfy.
3) Listen without correcting, countering. Savikng, 'Thqat's not the way it was,' or 'What did you expect? If you hadn't...' ore, 'You 're just beingtoo sensitive,' puts people on guard and stops real communication.
5) Validate the speaker. Accrept their perceptions and feelings and valid expressions of a valued person. 'If I understand you correctly, you're thinking... feeling... Am I right?' Ask them to help get you on the feel,' is very validating and will increase their confidence and willingness to consider the solutions you may offer.
Your listening skills play an important role in showing your personality. And these tips would surely help in your personality development by making you a good speaker.
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